As I sit here at our home in Vancouver, bright eyed and full of hope that COVID-19 will be coming to an end soon, I realize that my motto of “living life at its fullest” has been put on temporary hold. Vacations, family gatherings and going out for our random date nights are something to look forward to.
With that said, I am happy to report that myself, Sam and our family members are all in good health and staying somewhat sane.Our “new normal” way of life is hopefully on the horizon. We are looking forward to what’s coming up, including the big day! Our wedding!
As most of you already got the insider scoop, we got engaged last October. In a perfect world, the wedding would have been exactly one year after we got engaged, October 8th, 2020. How perfect is that?
We were just about to send out invitations, but the universe had different plans for us. Luckily, we were able to re-book the same venue and moved the date to April 1st, 2021. Regardless of what happens from now until then, that’s the day that these 2 grooms are getting hitched! End of discussion, case closed, decision made, April Fools style!
I’ve been to quite a few weddings and appreciate now more than ever the amount of planning that goes into that day. It’s not a stress-free type of event to say the least. Traditionally, I’ve always heard that the groom is not as involved in the planning process as the bride. She’s picked out her perfect dress, decided on the venue, color scheme, fashion statement.
The list goes on!
She steals the show on that big day, feeling like a princess and showing off that sparkly new ring. (Hopefully, they watched my YouTube diamond tutorial before they made such an important purchase…stay tuned for that!).
She has most likely imagined being a bride since whenever she saw her first Disney princess movie. Heck, even watching the little mermaid with my little sister it was hard not to imagine what it would be like to marry Prince Eric. That’s right! Like most gay men will tell you, we knew we were gay from when we were little kids. We were definitely not looking at Ariel’s new seashells, that’s for sure!
The fact was, there were no “Prince marrying another prince” wedding movies or even a mention of this being possible when we were growing up. What was supposed to happen when it’s Groom and Groom?
Rules had not been defined by either of us, so all bets were off. We bought each other engagement rings and we wear them every day! Plus, now we are looking at super classy wedding watches! Why not? (Stay tuned for my monthly watch reviews). Since being gay means not buying a 3 carat, D colour, flawless diamond with perfect symmetry and polish (something I’ll be talking about on YouTube soon), that means we have some extra cash to play with!
In fact, we didn’t spend much on our engagement rings. We each have one black and one silver tungsten wedding band each. And believe it or not, they look great and are durable, however, I am a total jewelry guy here so the actual wedding ring is a must have.
Just off the top of my head, I think I would love a simple beveled edge platinum band with an 18K rose gold interior (I’ll tell you why I chose 18K in an upcoming article). To match, a killer watch with some subtle rose gold accents. I guess I know what I want!
Omega, Cartier, Patek and Tag all had some sexy looks. What’s exciting is that we are looking at ring designs and watches now and can’t wait to share! Groom traditions re-invented.
After a few years with Sam I can tell you that it was not exceedingly difficult to swing him over to top quality. For gosh sake, he is what inspires me every day to push myself, believe in myself and strive to have the best that life can offer.
I got the best guy so why not get the best ring? I’ll look at it every day and think of him, so it may as well last forever, just like our love.A side benefit is that it will look freaking amazing! Why is this so important to me? It’s not about being materialistic at all and here’s why.
Have you ever inherited or been given something that belonged to someone or important to you? When you wear that piece or simply hold it, that person is with you. Have you ever been given jewelry as a gift or even treated yourself to something really special?
In fact, it’s true what they say. That diamond will captures real emotional memories. You wear your Grandmas’ old wedding ring and remember everything about her. It’s a piece of her.
You look down at your engagement ring and the memories come alive down to the details about the day that you got that ring. You remember the weather, what you were wearing, how you were feeling and maybe even what you had for dinner. You can’t say that about every day so it’s true, that darn ring has more special meaning than you would think.
Every sparkle and every flash of light reminds you of that special day or special someone. I know that when we find “the rings”, it won’t just speak to us, it will sing to us and become a part of us.
It will symbolize so much more than I can put into words.